Posted on 23 October 2015 by Rachel


23 October 2014

There is so much to love about Meghan Trainor's musical mission to empower those women who don’t feel they fit the common societal ideal of tall and slim. What a great body confidence message to say to girls and women: “Every inch of you is perfect, From the bottom to the top”

 …. And what a shame to back up that message by reminding girls that the reason they can be confident is that "Boys like a little more booty to hold at night."

So close, and yet, so far.

Is it really helpful for us to teach women that the best source of our self-worth should be the opinions of men?

I wonder what could it look like if we stopped telling girls that the worth of their bodies is a product of whether or not boys want to have sex with them?

And instead, what if we started telling girls that that they and their bodies have worth, no matter what they look like, because they are made unique, beautiful and wonderful?

And if we started telling girls that the primary purpose of their bodies is not to attract and arouse men, but to live?

Because our bodies are amazing, awe inspiring and worthy of notice because of how they were made, what they are and how they work.

In fact, did you know:

Your nose can remember 50,000 scents.
There are 100,000 miles of blood vessels in your body.
When awake, the human brain produces enough electricity to power a small light bulb.
The human eye can distinguish about 10 million different colours.
For every one step you take, you are using up to 200 different muscles.


What if we stopped teaching girls that boys have the final say on their worthiness? What is instead we formed their body confidence on something more?

What if body confidence could be about hearing our pulse beat in our ears as our bodies carry us over long distances? 

What if our body confidence could be about marvelling at how our hands equip us to write, to build, to design? 

What if our body confidence could be about the way our voice box plays with our mouths, our eyes and our smiles, to help us build relationships with new people?

What if, after all, whether boys are salivating over us or not, our bodies have worth, because they are our bodies, the marvellous physical ‘us’ that carries triumphantly through life, relating, building, creating… living!?

What if…?

Tags: body image, self-esteem,

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